blast! Computer crashed on me and I lost the post I was 90% done with writing.
Double blast! Barry posted his just before I could upload this. =) Anyways:
Well written, as always. In fact, you described it so vividly that even to me (I'm not a hair fetishist) it was... well written. I do have a TOS of my own to abide by. =).
I note that a board game was omitted from this post. I assume it was deliberately omitted. In fact, if this paragraph mentioning it discloses too much for your comfort, feel free to cheerfully delete the comment and I'll post a simliar one, sans board game references. I will say that knowing that story helps provide a fascinating 'other half' to this particular post, allowing me greater insight. I think I'm one of the few people remaining at the club who knows of said board game.
A few things, intended to hearten:
First, it's good that at your fetish can be (at least at a minor level) indulged relatively easily. It's a good deal easier to see a woman with nice hair than to see a naked woman, after all.
If you're on close enough terms with a woman to play with her hair (whether on a friendly or more erotic level), you'll likely also be on friendly enough terms to be able to ask her to remove any jewelry she's wearing. No bees in THIS candy bar, thank you very much. (on a side-note, I fortunately don't suffer quite the debiliating terror of bees that you do of jewelry. I don't envy you).
Also, when you get yourself another girlfriend, there's not a girl alive that won't be flattered by a gift basket of hair care products. Many women are sensitive about their hair, after all, and a little healthy worship can't hurt. It can easily be turned into a benefit, not a drawback.
Switching topics... I hadn't originally planned to ask this question on lj, but this post seems to indicate it's reasonable enough. Again, feel free to delete the comment if it isn't. How old were you when you discovered the hair attraction? I ask in particular regarding the girl you described a couple of entries ago. Was it sufficiently developed that you paid specific attention to her hair? I have no particular reason for asking and certainly no shining insights to offer; I'm simply curious.
On a more personal level... I'm in a surprisingly similar situation to you in this regard. I too have a fetish that while not identical, is comparable to several of the circumstances you mentioned. It can pose more attraction to me than more traditional erotic zones. I too have a 'checklist' of attraction (though I seem to have significantly lower standards than you do). I also find it easy to indulge casually, but the devill's own to take to any length.
I'm not going to state what it is, and I'll ask that anyone who reads this not blurt it out either (whether you know or have a guess). My reasons are twofold. First, I'm simply not that comfortable discussing it in this venue. Second, and much more self-serving is the matter of self preservation. If I state that I have a fetish for green sweaters, how many girls will wear a green sweater around me?
I'm glad for you that you were able to indulge it with regularity. I have at various times had my fetish denied, used against me, used to make me feel weird or strange, had it used as a bargaining chip against me, and used to gain power over me. All by girlfriends who professed to love me. So it goes.
That's my 'normal' fetish, at any rate. It's reasonably easy to guess. My 'weird' one is so off-mainstream that I've considered trying to make money by betting people that my fetish is weirder than theirs is. (only if the proper social context presents itself, of course). I could probably make quite a bundle, no matter what the definition of 'weird' is. But (as ZM would say) I digress.
In any event, this was another interesting insight into the entity that is ZM. If you take requests on lj topics, I'd be interested to see what caused you to take the 100% honesty approach to life that you lead.
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Double blast! Barry posted his just before I could upload this. =)
Anyways:
Well written, as always. In fact, you described it so vividly that even to me (I'm not a hair fetishist) it was... well written. I do have a TOS of my own to abide by. =).
I note that a board game was omitted from this post. I assume it was deliberately omitted. In fact, if this paragraph mentioning it discloses too much for your comfort, feel free to cheerfully delete the comment and I'll post a simliar one, sans board game references. I will say that knowing that story helps provide a fascinating 'other half' to this particular post, allowing me greater insight. I think I'm one of the few people remaining at the club who knows of said board game.
A few things, intended to hearten:
First, it's good that at your fetish can be (at least at a minor level) indulged relatively easily. It's a good deal easier to see a woman with nice hair than to see a naked woman, after all.
If you're on close enough terms with a woman to play with her hair (whether on a friendly or more erotic level), you'll likely also be on friendly enough terms to be able to ask her to remove any jewelry she's wearing. No bees in THIS candy bar, thank you very much. (on a side-note, I fortunately don't suffer quite the debiliating terror of bees that you do of jewelry. I don't envy you).
Also, when you get yourself another girlfriend, there's not a girl alive that won't be flattered by a gift basket of hair care products. Many women are sensitive about their hair, after all, and a little healthy worship can't hurt. It can easily be turned into a benefit, not a drawback.
Switching topics... I hadn't originally planned to ask this question on lj, but this post seems to indicate it's reasonable enough. Again, feel free to delete the comment if it isn't. How old were you when you discovered the hair attraction? I ask in particular regarding the girl you described a couple of entries ago. Was it sufficiently developed that you paid specific attention to her hair? I have no particular reason for asking and certainly no shining insights to offer; I'm simply curious.
On a more personal level... I'm in a surprisingly similar situation to you in this regard. I too have a fetish that while not identical, is comparable to several of the circumstances you mentioned. It can pose more attraction to me than more traditional erotic zones. I too have a 'checklist' of attraction (though I seem to have significantly lower standards than you do). I also find it easy to indulge casually, but the devill's own to take to any length.
I'm not going to state what it is, and I'll ask that anyone who reads this not blurt it out either (whether you know or have a guess). My reasons are twofold. First, I'm simply not that comfortable discussing it in this venue. Second, and much more self-serving is the matter of self preservation. If I state that I have a fetish for green sweaters, how many girls will wear a green sweater around me?
I'm glad for you that you were able to indulge it with regularity. I have at various times had my fetish denied, used against me, used to make me feel weird or strange, had it used as a bargaining chip against me, and used to gain power over me. All by girlfriends who professed to love me. So it goes.
That's my 'normal' fetish, at any rate. It's reasonably easy to guess. My 'weird' one is so off-mainstream that I've considered trying to make money by betting people that my fetish is weirder than theirs is. (only if the proper social context presents itself, of course). I could probably make quite a bundle, no matter what the definition of 'weird' is. But (as ZM would say) I digress.
In any event, this was another interesting insight into the entity that is ZM. If you take requests on lj topics, I'd be interested to see what caused you to take the 100% honesty approach to life that you lead.